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March 29, 2015


People. Relationships.

Are they so simple that as I sit here alone, and wish not to be, that I am suffering from a most humiliating condition? I'll call it isolation syndrome.

I wish I had some pictures of myself... I was fortunate to be a good looking male, a magnet and I didn't know it. I have had many relationships in my life. I'm presently single and have been for about ten years.

Do I want to be single, outside of a relationship? No.

Am I adapting? Yes.

But it's not what I'd choose to be,

It's my currently living situation where I've stayed too long.

Are relationships simple? Yes and no.

I can attest to the sense that Love is Elusive... but it's not. What we lack is confidence and as a result we settle for what may not work. If for one night, one week, three years or more, we have a tendency to pretend, as in we don't really communicate.

We're under a lot of pressure in society to mate - for a lifetime. Many of us grow up believing love is elusive and believing who we get is what we get. Oh, it's complicated.

The other person is perfect in the beginning, and we feel in love. We feel that this is it, our only hope - not even a hope - rather a dream come true.

Reality sets in eventually. The real work isn't finding a mate... it finding the correct one, the good fit. Then it's working together. Both need be present.

Likewise... relationships need not be permanent. Heck, they often don't last for long. A year, three years, more... they end. It can make one cynical.

I'm simply reflecting on 40 years of good relationships, no matter how or when they ended. The sex was good, the relationship was good. I just didn't have it in myself to say yes to marriage. Not that this is required, just that even today a relationship outside of marriage is not commonly accepted.

The relationship is not what's difficult. It's communicating that is difficult.

Simply reflecting...

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